How to be committed to self-love during a crisis

When you find yourself in the midst of a crisis, it is even easier to be hard on yourself. But what if we took the approach of being unapologetically committed to radical self-love?

There is so much on social media at the moment about how we should be using our lockdown time. You may be even thinking about what you should be doing yourself.


I should be more productive now that I don’t have to commute

I should be more grateful for this added free time I have

I should be using this time more wisely for my hobbies

I should be learning a new skill, a new language, a new talent


I should be working harder…doing more…feeling differently…being something else…


‘Should’ is a word that drips in self-disappointment. It is a horrendous self-punishing and self-deprecating term that demotivates, destroys, and devalues.

But the question really is – when you think of all these activities or things you ‘should’ be doing - do they reflect your passions and innate wants, or are they desires that society expects you to have?

You see your peers undertaking certain activities. You see these things happening on Facebook or Instagram. And by not doing them too does it make you less-than? Do you end up feeling inadequate or like a low achiever?

Engaging in self-love means dancing to the beat of your own drum. To feed both your soul and spirit you need to embark on those activities that fuel passion and excitement within you.

It is so very easy to get side-tracked by expectations, or by what others are doing. But it is only by acknowledging what YOU TRULY want, and those actions that align with your personal values that you will uncover happiness and pay homage to your true self.

"We should not long to return my friends, we are being given the opportunity to stitch a new garment. One that fits all of humanity and nature" – Sonya Renee Taylor

At the end of this crisis, the life that we have always known will no longer exist. We will see new social structures, have new outlooks, new beliefs, and an entirely reformed way of living.

All those ‘shoulds’ we may have been living by will be a thing of the past. Shrouded in a long-gone history.

So, perhaps instead of spending this lockdown time thinking about how to mould yourself into completing all those ‘shoulds’, reconsider what your heart truly wants and needs.

The Chinese use two brush strokes to write the word ‘crisis’. One brush stroke stands for danger; the other for opportunity.

Yes this is a time of crisis, and we need to be fully aware of the danger but lets also see the true opportunity in our situation.